Facebook, Plaxo Pulse, LinkedIn, Twitter, MySpace, whatever ...... I'm tired of them all. One might say BLOGSPOT. But I like going out and reading other people's writing, thoughts, ideas, opinions, news, etc. RSS is a great way for me to get my news and leisure reading all in one place. All these social book marking sites are so tiring.
Maybe it's because part of my job involves incessant IM, jabbering, posting, updating, message boarding, perceptive thoughts - must I go on? Anyone else tired of this crap?
The answer is an resounding "NO." Because y'all are uploading new photos and leaving stupid messages on your high-school buddy's wall in Facebook as I write this. Trust me - they are ALL tired of hearing about your baby's first poop.
At least you're online though. I know some folks that still get excited about the time they'll save when we fall back for DST because they never change the time on their watch in the spring. Sheesh.
Moving on ... I have a post for the fellas. Still getting a tiny bit of flack for the SB mantra.
Allow me to reiterate the purpose ... a manly trigger to shift your focus towards God when things need fixing or are simply out of control. Now, since the word bastard causes problems, I am willing to shorten the phrase to Selfish B. That way we can all get over the perception of the term as opposed to the reputations of the men behind the philosophy.
SelfishB is often a response to marital issues. I believe that even when you're not at fault in a tough marital battle, there is certainly something in your life that you can shift your focus that would honor God and fill the void. Us men rarely encourage each other and offer our personal experiences.
What if you don't have someone to share with or your peers are simply useless and no mentor is available to you? Or perhaps you see your walk as so pristine there is no need for bettering yourself.
Need something to work on? There is a list that the wonderful Robert Lewis put together for those on the Quest for Authentic Manhood. I thought to post this as a reference - not something to perfect today but rather work on over a lifetime. Read this carefully and check which ones you've mastered as the Servant-Leader and Spiritual Leader of your home:
25 Ways to Be a Servant-Leader
A servant-leader ...
- includes his wife in envisioning the future.
- accepts spiritual responsibility for his family.
- is willing to say "I'm sorry" and "Forgive Me" to his family.
- discusses household responsibilities with his wife and makes sure they are evenly distributed.
- seeks the consultation of his wife on all major financial decisions.
- follows through with commitments he has made to his wife.
- anticipates the different seasons his marriage will pass through.
- anticipates the different stages his children will pass through.
- frequently tells his wife what he likes about her.
- provides financially for his family's basic living expenses.
- deals with distractions so he can talk with his wife and family.
- prays with his wife on a regular basis.
- initiates meaningful family traditions.
- plans fun outings for the family on a regular basis.
- takes the time to give his children practical instructions about life, which in turn gives them confidence with their peers.
- manages the schedule of the home and anticipates any pressure points.
- keeps his family financially sound and out of harmful debt.
- makes sure he and his wife have drawn up a will and arranged a well-conceived plan for their children in case of death.
- lets his wife and children into the interior of his life.
- honors his wife often in public.
- explains sex to each child in a way that gives them a wholesome perspective.
- encourages his wife to grow as an individual.
- takes the lead in establishing with his wife sound, biblically-supportable family values.
- joins a small group of men who are dedicated to improving their skills as a man, husband, and father.
- provides times for his wife to pursue her own personal interests.
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Done, what is #26?
JK, great post. And the original SB is doing well also. Managed to get a nice office chair for himself, the SB.
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